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Are You in the Mommy Trap?
Take this quiz to find out

1. Have you been to the movies at least three times in this millennium to see non-children related entertainment?
2. Do you get at least five hours of personal time a week (not including taking a shower, brushing your hair, and sleeping)?
3. Has your sex life brightened since you and your husband became parents?
4. Has your appearance, style of dress, standard of cleanliness, and hairstyle improved since you became a Mom?
5. Do you feel your family enjoys one of the best possible caregiving situations, which takes into account everybody's desires and needs, including Mom's?
6. If your husband asked you what he could do to help, could you think of three specific chores you could give up to him, and say nothing about how to perform them?

How did you do?

If you answered yes to all of these questions, you are not in the Mommy Trap and should write a book telling the rest of us how you managed it. Share your thoughts to help those who may not have been so lucky.

If you answered "no" to two or more of these questions, you are doing well, but will learn how to set up an even better arrangement if you read "How To Avoid The Mommy Trap."

If you answered "no" to 3 to 6 of these questions, you fell into the Mommy Trap a long time ago. Buy the book and turn to chapters 10 and eleven immediately.

Mommy Trap Diagnosis